Woman feels sexier than EVER after deciding to embrace her silver hair06/20/2019
Woman who went gray ‘overnight’ at age 21 says she feels sexier than ever at 43 now that she has stopped trying to dye her locks and embraced a natural silver ‘do
- Sara Eisenman, from Sedona, Arizona, said her hair started to turn silver when she was just 21 years of age
- The neuroscientist and author immediately started to hide her silver locks by using box dye to color her hair jet black every two weeks
- The now mother-of-two said after having her second child Abe, eight, her life became to hectic and she had to prioritize other things than her hair
- She decided to stop dying her hair when she was 37, and is now embracing her natural look, which her husband Hanan, 45, fully supports
- Since she ditched the hair dye, she said she feels sexier than ever before
- ‘Embracing this is what it means to be truly ageless,’ she said
A woman whose hair turned silver when she was 21, which resulted in her obsessively dying it every fortnight to banish gray hairs, says having kids has made her embrace her natural color and she now feels sexier than ever.
Neuroscientist and author, Sara Eisenman, 43, from Sedona, Arizona, was left feeling mortified when she looked in the mirror at 21 and saw that her hair had started to turn gray in what seemed like overnight.
At a time when she felt she was supposed to be in her prime, Sara took her changing hair color as a negative sign of ageing and immediately started to hide her silver locks with box dyes every two weeks, afraid of anyone seeing her new natural color.
Wow! Sara Eisenman, from Sedona, Arizona, said her dark hair started to turn silver when she was just 21 years of age in what seemed like overnight
Change: The neuroscientist and author immediately started to hide her silver locks by using box dye to color her hair jet black every two weeks
She even prioritized dying her hair just hours before giving birth to her son, Abe, eight, so that when people visited them, they wouldn’t see any tell-tale signs of ageing.
Now a mother-of-two, after having her daughter Naomi, 11, previously, Sara started to change her mindset towards her and image, realizing that there were more important things in life than whether she had freshly dyed hair or not.
At 37 years of age after 15-years of coloring her hair at home, Sara ditched the dye and started to view her silver hair as a “crown” and found that she felt completely liberated and reborn.
Unhappy: Pictured when she would regularly dye her hair in 2012, Sara was scared of anyone seeing her natural silver locks
Sara’s husband, Hanan, 45, fully supported her decision to embrace her natural beauty but when she confided in her friends, she was told that she would look aged and like a witch.
However, Sara proved them all wrong and found that her natural color had a vibrancy and sparkle that dyes didn’t.
Sara will turn 44 in September, and instead of feeling as though she is in decline as she gets older, she has more energy than ever before, looks and feels the best she has done in her life and she says it’s all thanks to embracing her natural silver hair.
‘My hair turned almost entirely silver, literally overnight, at the age of 21. I went to the mirror one day to find that silver hair was emerging from the roots all over my head,’ said Sara.
‘It was seen by me as a startling marker of ageing at a time when I was supposed to be in the height of youth.
‘To disguise this evidence I took to coloring my hair very aggressively every two weeks, with a slew of other products – powders, hair crayons, etc. – to disguise the roots in between dying.
‘I could not afford to go to a salon so I would use cheap box dye and undertook this messy process at home as frequently as possible to hide what was happening to me, of which my hair was a glaring symbol,’ she added.
Sara said she was so ashamed of her hair that she would fear her roots showing. She said she even had her hair colored just hours before she knew she would be going into labor with her son, so he would see her with ‘freshly dyed’ black hair.
However, her life began to change with her two young children, as they needed her attention especially during their younger years. This made coloring her hair so often seem less important, so she began prioritizing other things rather than her hair.
Sara said: ‘At 37, after more than 15 years of coloring every two weeks, I could no longer remain a slave to the box of dye – other considerations were simply too important.
Confident: Despite being told by some of her friends that she would look like a witch if she let her natural hair shine through, she proved her doubters wrong
‘I began to have some potent realizations: one, that my shame regarding my hair was connected to whole other realms of hiding and shame within, based in social indoctrination, and secondly that the emergence of my silver hair was a symbol, a crown of sorts, that marked a total release of said shame and radical willingness to fully own all that I am and thereby free myself both for my own liberation and even more so – that of my children.
‘At that time I was still trying to “fit in” to myriad social structures – extended family, the clique of moms at my kids’ school – that I knew would be kerfuffled by my blatant silver roots and what was bound to be a very awkward transition from fully dyed black hair, to blazing silver. When I confided my decision to friends, I was told how much it would age me, and that I would look like a ‘witch’.
‘Yet I knew very steadfastly in my heart that these stereotypes would prove completely incorrect, and I never touched a bottle of dye again.
‘I also used this as an opportunity for a radical total self-rebirth, which manifested in myriad ways. First, I started wearing the clothing I always wanted to wear, in new color palates, playing with new makeup shades, using all manner of scarfs, headbands and messy up-dos to dance with the line of demarcation between old and new ‘me’.
‘Thus while I found myself shunned by some of the snobby moms and other judgmental people in my life during more transition, I was coming more alive and having more fun than ever,’ she added.
Exciting: Pictured with Naomi, Sara said she used the opportunity of letting her natural hair shine as an ‘opportunity for a radical total self-rebirth’
Amazing! ‘I was coming more alive and having more fun than ever,’ Sara, pictured when she had her hair stripped of the black dye at a salon, said
Gorgeous! The mother-of-two said her silver hair turned out to look better than it appeared when she used dye to color it
The mother-of-two said her silver hair turned out to look better than it appeared when she used dye to color it.
She explained: ‘The silver hair had a reflective, brilliant almost mirror like quality to it. It would reflect the sunsets on the beach or the pure desert light, and it would sparkle.
‘Very few people know that silver hair actually has a natural brilliance and magic to it, that is only dulled and deadened with dye. It was an amazing experience,’ she added.
Beautiful: ‘The silver hair had a reflective, brilliant almost mirror like quality to it. It would reflect the sunsets on the beach or the pure desert light, and it would sparkle,’ she said
When Sara leaves the house she is met with praise from other women who thank her for embracing her natural hair color and for breaking the stigma surrounding gray hair.
Although not everyone understands her decision to keep it natural, she doesn’t care about other people’s opinions as she is the happiest she has ever been since throwing away the dye.
‘I feel like my hair is a symbol of natural beauty and freedom, and I’m extremely grateful to play any role I can in helping women discover how amazing they truly are, how free and fun life can be, and how we can find sisterhood and community in it all,’ she said.
‘I am acutely aware that my hair challenges a lot of people. I get myriad compliments every time I leave the house; also occasional sideways glances, blatant stares, people wanting to touch my hair in awe, and more.
‘And I also feel that not perhaps everyone likes it, or ‘understands’ it, or wants to do this themselves, and the best part is that it doesn’t matter what other people think at all because I am free.
‘Overwhelmingly, the response is extremely, powerfully positive. I literally feel like I am liberation walking around in human form, and my hair is a crown on my head that speaks to who I am and the work I’ve done to become myself. I see so many other women lighting up in response to that energy and it’s such a breath of fresh air and a celebration. Life is essentially a great deal of fun for me these days, because of all this.’
As I approach 44 and am at the point in life where I’m supposed to be ‘declining’ due to middle age, I find myself looking, feeling, and being better than ever. I am living my dreams. I have published three books – including one called Splendor: The Nazarite Method to (Re)growing Long, Strong, Healthy, Holy Hair, all about my journey with silver hair and hair growth – and am writing more.
Beauty: The mom-of-two said she believes her silver hair is a symbol of ‘beauty and freedom’, and wants to encourage other women to feel comfortable to sport the natural look
Positive: Since she stopped dying her hair, Sara has had a new lease of life. She has more energy than ever before, and feels ‘more beautiful and sexier’ in her mid 40s
Happy: Sara, who said there has been no negative result of her showing her natural hair, said: ‘Embracing this is what it means to be truly ageless’
‘I am hiking daily and now beginning to ride horses for the first time in my life. I have energy and stamina I could not begin to muster at 20-something. I have healed and released the trauma of my upbringing and am raising my kids in a way that is truly whole and free.
‘All of this began at the very moment that I decided to stop dying my hair,’ she added.
‘My silver hair is not aging, and never was. It was all along merely a symbol of my rebirth. Imagine that I spent 15 years dutifully pouring expensive poisons on my head – terrified of who I really was – all to disguise something that was truly a gift not only to myself but many others.’
Achievement: Sara has written a book about her journey with her hair titled ‘Splendor: The Nazarite Method to (Re)growing Long, Strong, Healthy, Holy Hair’
Sara believes that there is a consensus that menopausal women are invisible in society and explained how she now feels sexier than ever before thanks to her beautiful hair.
‘It is also about refusing to become invisible in a world that treats older women or those marked as “ageing” as such. I actually had someone recently tell me that post-menopausal women are “invisible” in our society – when really they should be the most visible of all,’ she said.
‘The empowered, embodied, confident, authentic, free and wise elder woman is the cornerstone of a healthy society. More than ever, our society is in dire need of these embodied powerhouse women, for they hold the wisdom of the way forward.
‘Once a woman knows her true power in this way, it changes everything. I for one refuse to become invisible not only at 44, but at 88, should I be blessed to live so long,’ she added.
Sara said there is no negative outcomes of showing her natural silver hair.
She explained: ‘To sum, there is literally no downside that I have experienced in the decision to embrace my natural silver hair. There is nothing to lose – except society’s judgments and a few friends who weren’t, really – and everything to gain: freedom, daring, a whole new relationship with one’s own beauty and being, increased health and confidence, and last but not least being able to do something good for the Earth by not contributing to the collective toxic chemical burden.
‘In embracing my silver hair, I feel more alive, more beautiful and sexier than ever in my mid-40s. My embodied philosophy is that, through every single stage of life, we don’t necessarily ‘age’ so much as we have the opportunity to continuously grow.
‘Embracing this is what it means to be truly ageless,’ she added.
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