My partner keeps his wife’s ashes in his wallet and it makes me feel second best – The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: ODD that is it, my partner keeps some of his wife’s ashes in his wallet.

He says it comforts him, but while the ashes go everywhere he goes, I feel second best.

His wife died three years ago from a brain tumour. I met him a few months after she died and he said he didn’t know if he was ready for a relationship.

But our friendship soon progressed. I’m 42 and he is 44. It was hard at first as he still wore his wife’s wedding ring on his little finger and had photos of her all over his house.

It got too much for me and he agreed at least to put the photos out of sight. We bought a new bed and redecorated the house he shared with her.

I love this man and he wants me to move in, but I feel this will never be my home.

DEIDRE SAYS: It seems he probably didn’t allow enough time to grieve and might be feeling guilty about wanting company and physical love.

He will always remember her but he wants to have a fresh start.

Suggest his wife’s ring and the ashes go into a special drawer and he talks to Cruse Bereavement Care (cruse.org.uk, 0808 808 1677).

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