Nine women tell us why they have faked orgasms during sex

Nine women tell us why they have faked orgasms during sex


If you’re a woman, it’s highly likely that you have at some point in your life faked an orgasm during sex.

We’re not just saying that; new research suggests that three in four women have faked it at least once.

In fact, some do it every third time they have sex.

To find out why women are denying themselves a real climax in bed and instead opting for fake sounds and shivers, we asked them: why do you fake it?

Petra*, 26

I do it all the time.

Men are so bad at making you cum. They will rub you till your skin comes off so it’s better to nip it in the bud early, simply so they can stop giving me carpet burn.

I have never told a man I’ve faked it because I feel it would hurt their masculinity. Have you seen their face when they’re trying to do it?

It’s like a dog and you can’t upset a dog.

Those eyes – never.

I’ve faked my orgasms for the majority of my sex life, I’ve only not faked for three people.

Fran*, 27

I hardly ever fake it, but when I do it’s almost always just to hurry things up, not really to boost their ego.

Sometimes you also just want to go to sleep, and faking it speeds up the process.

I rarely do this though, because I can almost never come through penetrative sex so faking it is basically pointless.

Julie*, 30

This one guy just would not stop and my vagina was feeling raw from having sex for hours, so it happened.

Now, it’s a point of pride that I don’t fake it.

I just don’t see the point, because I would hope that the man I’m with would rather I spoke up and told him I can’t get there or that he needs to mix things up. If a man is mature enough to have sex, he should be mature enough to be able to handle a little guidance.

It’s the exact same the other way around; if he’s too drunk or exhausted to finish, that’s fine.

More often than not, taking a break actually feels like a good thing, because then we can just pick up where we left off, when we’re both ready.

Belle*, 31

If the sex is shit or if you are not going to come, just get it over with.

Clearly I need to source better dick.

Betty*, 24

I have faked orgasms.

One particularly memorable time was with a guy where I knew it just wasn’t going to happen, but he seemed determined and wouldn’t stop until I finished. I just faked it to get it over with.

I didn’t want to hurt his feelings, because the logic behind his actions were sweet.

We’d also hooked up before and then it was all fine and dandy.

Also, I had just started taking anti-depressants so it was my biological issue, not his.

I don’t regret it, because it’s just one of those things and it’s not the only time I’ve done it.

When I was younger and new to sex, I faked it a few times but that’s beacause at 19, I thought that’s what you do.

Then I learned otherwise and now I no longer do it.

Shelly*, 25

I have faked millions of orgasms, usually because I am not feeling it/ bored and want to speed up the sex being over.

I’ve never told my partners, because I just feel like it would be awkward.

Maybe I’m missing out, I’m not sure, but I just have so little faith in men’s abilities.

The only time I can orgasm is with my vibrator, but I’ve only ever used it with boyfriends – never casual flings.

Paula*,  27

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with doing it, and when and if I have, I’ve never told the other person.

If I faked it in my current relationship, he would notice – but we’ve been together a long time and our sex is good.

When I’ve done it in the past it’s usually been with someone who doesn’t care enough to notice whether I orgasm or not.

I’d say that’s pretty common for me and friends I’ve spoken to about it.

Sometimes you just have to use the tools at your disposal for the situations you find yourself in, also known as ending bad sex.

Jenny*, 30

I can’t think of a specific time, but here’s my issue.

I find it really difficult to orgasm, like I’ll get to the top of the mountain but I can’t let go and jump off.

So I’ll just pretend I have sometimes because I can’t try any longer. Or, if they’re really not great, I’ll fake it so it’s over faster.

Hayley, 31

I have indeed faked it, with my ex.

Honestly, I just wanted to get it the f*** over with.

How did I do it? It was mostly sounds, and there may have been some movement in my legs.

I’m not that good of an actress and I think he knew about it, as he asked me if I came. I said yes.

There are lots of reasons women fake it.

Personally I think women are sometimes scared to say what they want, or if the sex is bad – so they fake it.

It’s a horrible thing to do as it doesn’t help anyone.

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