My friend just takes and takes – how do I tell him 'no'? | The Sun
07/22/2022DEAR DEIDRE: I’VE been pals with my best mate for 30 years, but he is a taker and I’m sick of it.
He pops round uninvited with his partner (who is just as bad) and they help themselves to drinks, food, anything they fancy in our fridge – even, on one occasion, our kids’ ice creams.
I’m 42 and he is the same age.
He’s always been tight and never buys a round, for example.
I have tried telling him how I feel by making sarcastic comments, but he just laughs.
Nothing ever changes.
Now costs are going up and we are struggling to pay our bills.
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I’m starting to feel so resentful and I’m not sure how much longer our friendship will last.
My wife has had enough of him too. What can I do?
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DEIDRE SAYS: Your friend’s behaviour is unacceptable but it would be a shame to throw away a 30-year friendship without trying to save it.
Perhaps it’s time to stop with the subtle jokes, as they’re not getting through.
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Instead, tell him exactly how you feel. Make it clear you value his friendship but he’s taking things too far.
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