I’ve been having great sex with a woman I clean windows for but now she’s pregnant – The Sun

I’ve been having great sex with a woman I clean windows for but now she’s pregnant – The Sun

03/17/2020

DEAR DEIDRE: I’VE been having great sex with a woman I met through my job as a window cleaner.

I was always clear that it was strictly fun, and I thought she was too, but now she’s told me she’s pregnant. That was not the deal and I’m not happy.


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I’m a normal red-blooded male of 29. I have a three-year-old daughter with an ex who I see regularly.

I was with my ex for 18 months before she got pregnant but we used to argue a lot and we were better off apart.

The next child I wanted to be with my dream woman — somebody I’d genuinely love and want to settle down with.

I’ve had plenty of one-night stands since I left my ex but they’ve meant nothing.

I have a window-cleaning business and I went to a new housing estate around a year ago and got a job cleaning for this gorgeous woman.

She’s 31 and has two girls. I assumed she was married or with someone but one day I fixed her daughter’s bike for her because the chain had come off. We got chatting and she said she was single.

She gave me her number and we started texting, and then we arranged to go out for a drink.

She said she really missed sex but didn’t want any commitment and that was like music to my ears.

I went to her house one night when her girls were with their dad. We had some drinks and then went upstairs.

I kissed her and as she put her hands in my shirt, I pulled her dress over her head.

Her body was incredible and she was up for anything. She had toys and she even used a whip on me.

So that was the start of almost a year of sex once every couple of weeks. I thought she was on the pill but it’s turned out she wasn’t playing safe.

I went round last night and she told me she’s pregnant. She hasn’t even considered my feelings, but is happy to add to her family. I don’t want this child. What can I do?

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DEIDRE SAYS: For good reasons it is the mother’s decision legally whether to continue with her pregnancy.

I realise how frustrating this is for you but why didn’t you use condoms if it was so important to you she didn’t get pregnant?

It may not have been that she was careless. The Pill can fail through illness like a stomach upset, for example.

Every child deserves two loving parents. Tell her you don’t see the two of you as a couple and you don’t want this child. Does she really want to be a single mum of three?

My e-leaflet on Unplanned Pregnancy can help her find support to think the implications through.

But if she is determined to go ahead, find it in your heart to be a caring dad. None of this is the baby’s fault.

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