‘I threw boyfriend surprise orgy party – now I’m a single swinger and I love it’

‘I threw boyfriend surprise orgy party – now I’m a single swinger and I love it’

07/04/2019

When Sarah Banahan was trying to decide what to do for her boyfriend's birthday, she knew she wanted something a bit different.

Instead of organising a special dinner at a romantic restaurant or a fun night out with friends, she threw him a surprise orgy.

It was a huge success and the 34-year-old loved every second – and even though the boyfriend is now long go it kick started a complete lifestyle change for her.

Sarah, who lives in Covent Garden, London, told Mirror Online: "A few years back I threw a surprise orgy for my then boyfriend as we both had a taste of 'kink'.

"As the proud girlfriend I am I decided to take matters into my own hands and found other sexually liberated couples and singles to create my first ever group party.

"The birthday night was such a success and voila I created something not only successful but it was to change my life forever."

She quit her job so she could throw herself fully into the lifestyle, and it has altered her whole outlook on life.  

Sarah said: "I don’t think “vanilla” – I’m wild, eccentric and sexually energised.

"I have met friends for life and I love connecting with like-minded people. We can share our experiences and organise meet-ups Internationally.

"The more I do it, the more it levitates me to keep on going. I am a perfectionist, a sexual deviant and this doesn’t mean I play with everybody but it means I get to dress up, play a character and that's the kind of thing that excites me."

Sarah, who works as a model and a sex columnist, now organises meets for other like-minded people with the dating and networking site Clique Lifestyle , and she loves seeing people getting involved.

She said: "I like seeing people happy. Not everybody has the time to attend parties and find other people who share the same lifestyle.

"This isn’t a tacky affair, everything is carefully planned and it's not like just anybody can just turn up.

"When I organise a meet on Clique Lifestyle and we can stand at the back of the room and see everybody smiling, drinking, dancing, integrating that is what excites us because we know we have done a good job. Bringing like-minded couples together is our passion."

Sarah is currently single and says she's too busy to try and meet someone at the moment.

She said: "I prefer being alone right now and just chat and connecting with people who understand what this lifestyle is all about."

While she loves the community and pretty much everything about it, there are still some things she finds extremely frustrating.

She said: "People who think they can just send you a picture of there private parts expecting us to respond and invite them in. No! It doesn’t work like that.

"This is not about how big your Tom, Dick or Harry is – this is interaction on a stimulative level.

"Sex comes with it, yes, but a lot of people especially men embarrass themselves by expecting to just land with their genitals out. Go home this isn’t the party for you."

She's also aware of the negative views that some people have of it, and she wishes they would be more open-minded.

She said: "You can’t preach what you don’t know. In this generation everybody has an opinion and most opinions of the people that have never been to a party are again, misjudging.

"They talk about the swinging as if it's a seedy, cheap community filled with STDs.

"It’s funny how kings and queens did this decades ago I don’t see them as “trash” throwing parties for two or three days straight hosting inside their grand castles.


"I wish people could be more open minded and see how it has moved on since the seedy act it once was – it's about making connections and expressing yourself sexually."

However she refuses to be embarrassed and is proud to be part of the scene.

She said: "I am not embarrassed about anything. I’m too strong minded to care.

"Not one person who follows this lifestyle should be.

"Again, this is another view that people think swinging is something to be ashamed of and a reason why we need platforms because it helps people openly talk about things they may usually shy away from."

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