I found out my husband had sex with a 15-year-old when he was 23 – The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: RECENTLY I found out that before we met, my husband had a sexual relationship with a girl of 15 when he was 23.

He didn’t realise she was so young at first but continued to have a sexual relationship with her after she’d turned 16.

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I feel he should have left her the second he found out her real age.

I can’t look at him the same way now.

I don’t like him touching me, it makes me feel sick.

I’m 33 and he’s 35.

I can’t bear to think I’m with a paedophile.

DEIDRE SAYS: She was legally under age and your husband was very wrong to have sex with her if he couldn’t be sure she was old enough to give informed con­sent.

But it does not make him a paedophile.

Paedophiles are sexually attracted to pre-pubescent chil­dren, which is a very different behaviour with different implic­ations long-term.

I wonder if this has brought up bad memories for you of a sexual experience you now feel you were press­ur­ed into when young.

Your husband may not be the best person to give you support.

I’m sending you my e-leaflet How Counselling Helps.

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