I feel so ugly when I see my husband ogling young women online

05/06/2022

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN my husband ogles young women wearing next to nothing on social media, I feel so ugly.

I’ve told him it feels like he is comparing me unfavourably to these younger women but he says I’m being ridiculous and insists he loves me.

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We have been married for 20 years. I am 49 while he is 51.

I’ve got a mum tum and cellulite after having our two kids.

I know I look nothing like the slender, smooth-skinned women he gawps at.

Sometimes he even posts comment on their pictures online, saying things like, “Gorgeous!” and: “Sexy!”

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He has always been a womaniser and though he has never been unfaithful to me, he admits he’s a bit of a pervert.

How can I make him see how upset he makes me?

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I haven't told my wife that I watch gay porn and fantasise about men

DEAR DEIDRE

big flop

TOO-TH LATE

DEIDRE SAYS: Even though he knows how much this upsets you, he still does it.

If he really loves you, as he says, he needs to understand that his behaviour is unkind and inappropriate, then make an effort to change.

And you need to spell out how he is putting your relationship’s future at risk.

My support pack called Standing Up For Yourself should help you make your feelings clear to him.