How do I convince my wife that circumcising our son is the right thing to do?

09/21/2021

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN my wife and I found out she was pregnant with a boy, we were overjoyed.

But we now just keep arguing about whether or not to get him circumcised after he is born.

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We are both Muslim but my wife is turning her back on her faith. She fell out with her family about their beliefs.

We are both 31. Our baby is due to arrive in November.

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My wife has researched circumcision and says it’s unnatural. I’ve tried to tell her about the benefits.

I’m circumcised and so are the other males in my family. How can I convince my wife?

DEIDRE SAYS: Many Muslims do not circumcise their children until the age of seven, so you have time.

Talk to your wife to try to understand why she is so against the procedure.
You both need to consider what is best for you son.

On the one hand, not being circumcised could be difficult for him later on, for faith reasons.

But on the other, why risk this procedure that could cause pain and occasional complications?

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