Can we make our 20-year age gap work?

DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend loves to stay out until the early hours with his mates and enjoys nights out whereas I prefer a quiet weekend in with a film and a takeaway.

I do go out drinking occasionally but I am ready to come home by midnight. I don’t enjoy boozing any more.

When I’m ready to turn in, he’s just starting his evening and thinking about which club to head to next.

I’m a 46 year-old gay guy and slowing down. My partner is 25. We have been together for a year and are very happy.

I have recently moved south with my job and my partner says he is moving here too. I am not sure whether this is a good idea.

He’s still young and I don’t want to suffocate him and make him old before his time.

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I feel I should end this relationship and allow him to be young. The age thing is only going to get worse as time goes by.

DEIDRE SAYS: Not necessarily. Some relationships flourish despite a large age gap.

If you are both happy now then it’s a shame to end something that’s working. Good relationships aren’t that easy to find.

You don’t have to do the same things all the time – but listen and show interest and be pleased when your partner is having a good time.

My support pack Age Gaps – Do They Matter? will help you to decide if this is right for you.

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