Bride reveals she watched husband die just 16 DAYS after their wedding05/20/2019
Bride, 32, reveals how she watched her husband die just 16 DAYS after their dream wedding from a rare form of cancer – and says she can still hear him telling her to ‘stop crying’
- Becca Thomas, from Kent, enjoyed whirlwind romance with husband Dan, 32
- Vlogger Dan, from Dudley, West Mids, died last year after battle with rare cancer
- Videos raised awareness of cancer and urged worried people to go to the doctor
- Dan married girlfriend Becca in September after planning wedding in few weeks
- Widow has launched own blog to continue to share her late husband’s message
A young widow who watched her husband die from a rare form of cancer just 16 days after they got married has revealed she still hears his voice telling her not to cry.
Brave Becca Thomas, a ‘twenty-something’ from Kent, enjoyed a whirlwind romance with vlogger Dan Thomas, 32, known online as PeeWeeToms.
The couple, who met in Starbucks, got married on September 12 last year after planning their ceremony in a matter of days with the help of friends and family.
Just over two weeks later, Becca was by Dan’s side as he passed away in Weston Hospicecare.
Brave Becca Thomas, a ‘twenty-something’ from Kent, enjoyed a whirlwind romance with vlogger Dan Thomas, 32, known online as PeeWeeToms
Becca, who met Dan in Starbucks, nursed him as he battled a rare form of cancer called a pleomorphic sarcomatoid carcinoma (PSC)
Now Becca has shared a heartbreaking blog post detailing those final days with her husband, whom she called her ‘best friend’.
In a piece for Love What Matters, Becca told how they went on their first day the same evening that they met in the coffee shop, after Dan, from Dudley, West Midlands, invited her to his brother Matt’s gig.
She said the ‘unforgettable’ night ended with her ‘stuffing my face with pizza and watching Predator with, little did I know it then – my future husband’.
Dan had a rare form of cancer called a pleomorphic sarcomatoid carcinoma (PSC) which he had been told was terminal, and he documented his journey on his YouTube channel and Instagram.
His aim, according to Becca, was to raise awareness of the disease, encourage people to go to the doctor if they were worried and ‘help as many people in life as he possibly could, whether they were affected by cancer or not’.
Becca and Dan got married on September 12 last year after planning their ceremony in a matter of days with the help of friends and family
Dan posted this message to his Instagram page from his hospice bed three days before he died, revealing he’d been hanging out with his ‘beautiful wife’ and watching the Great British Bake Off
After Dan popped the question on August 21, the couple got married a couple of weeks later.
Becca recalled: ‘The weather was amazing on our wedding day. He coped so well he didn’t use his cane the entire day, because at this point he had lost a lot of weight, his Lymphedema was too painful to imagine and he relied on a cane to walk. But not that day.
‘Our friends put so much together in such a short period of time for us to rush the wedding, I have no idea where I would be without them.’
Dave Grohl, front man for the Foo Fighters, even sent the pair a congratulations message after the wedding in a video shared on Instagram.
After Dan popped the question on August 21, the couple got married a couple of weeks later
Becca recalled the endless hospital appointments, tests and trials – for which she was by his side all the way
The singer, who was standing next to Dan’s drummer brother, said: ‘I’m here with your brother, sending you a lot of love, and congratulations on your wedding.’
But with the highs came the unbearable lows, and Becca recalled the endless hospital appointments, tests and trials – for which she was by his side all the way.
‘Since meeting Dan, I hadn’t missed a single hospital appointment,’ she said.
‘I stayed in the Royal Marsden in Sutton with him for two weeks when his bile duct blocked, he went jaundice and had surgery. I waited outside the operating room when he had surgery without general anaesthesia and tried to block my ears in case he was making noises indicating he was in pain.’
Now Becca admits she can still hear her husband’s encouraging words, telling her to stop crying because ‘life is good’
She recalled staying with Dan in his hospital room until 2am watching ‘random movies and making the nurses laugh’, and when he was in too much pain to sleep.
‘When he was being violently sick, we set up camp on the bathroom floor and tried to pretend we weren’t there because he was ill, but because we wanted to,’ Becca said.
‘I memorised all his medication and could tell the nurses exactly what he was taking when and how much. I would clean his throw up off the floor when he didn’t make it upstairs.
Becca recalled staying with Dan in his hospital room until 2am watching ‘random movies and making the nurses laugh’, and when he was in too much pain to sleep
‘I’d be covered in his blood when his tumor tore open, and hold him up to make sure he wouldn’t faint or go into shock. Rubbing his back and feeling all the nodules of the tumor popping up at a rapid pace. I didn’t leave his side the whole time he was in the hospice.’
Who was YouTuber PeeWeeToms?
PeeWeeToms is a username used by Dan Thomas on YouTube.
Dan, 32, posted numerous videos on the channel about his daily life fighting cancer.
He was first diagnosed with a rare form of cancer called sarcomatoid carcinoma in July 2015 and had numerous surgeries and therapies.
The YouTube account has more than 176,000 subscribers with some videos having more than 356K views.
Mr Thomas started the account to provide ‘inspiration, motivation or some get up.’
He also wanted to encourage people to go to the doctor if they were concerned about their health.
After eight harrowing days watching her husband get weaker and weaker, feeling like she couldn’t even go to the toilet without ‘panicking’, Becca and Dan’s family said their goodbyes on September 28.
‘He said his last words the night before he died,’ she recalled. ‘I said to him, “I love you”, which I said in almost every sentence at this point, and he opened his eyes, held my hand and said, “I love you too, but this is ridiculous.”. He proceeded to remove his oxygen mask. It was such a Dan thing to do, to choose his time.’
Now Becca admits she can still hear her husband’s encouraging words, telling her to stop crying because ‘life is good’.
She admitted: ‘I never imagined I could give up everything I’ve ever known and give up my life for someone else.
‘I have done things I never imagined I could or would be able to do. I was once scared of blood, needles and vomit. Now, they don’t phase me at all.
‘It has been suggested to me that I have PTSD, as I see his blood on my hands when I look at them. I panic and feel I need to wash them, but I know the blood isn’t really there.’
Now Becca is doing her best to spread the same sort of positivity Dan strived to instill in others through her own blog and videos.
Read more about Becca’s journey on her website and her YouTube channel.
Now Becca is doing her best to spread the same sort of positivity Dan strived to instill in others through her own blog and videos
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