I'm a relationship pro – what your Xmas gift reveals about your relationship & why a voucher means your man's clueless | The Sun

IT'S Christmas day and you're opening the gifts placed underneath the decorated tree.

You finally get to the one from your man and wonder what's inside – is it a new fragrance? A voucher? Yet another bath set?

Whatever it is can reveal a lot about how the significant other values you and your relationship, according to dating experts.

To find out what some of the most popular gifts mean, Fabulous spoke to James Preece and Hayley Quinn. So is it really bad if you receive a gift card?

''A gift can show so much about how a person views you. A gift doesn’t need to be expensive, but it needs to mean something and show that you’ve put some serious consideration into it,'' said James.

''It shows that you understand them and care about whey are most passionate about.''

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Vouchers – lazy and last-minute?

A lot of people turn to gift vouchers as a last-minute present – but what does that signify about their relationship with the other person?

Sharing his thoughts, James said: ''It shows a lack of thought and effort in finding a gift that is meaningful and special.

''A gift voucher also implies that the gift giver doesn't know the recipient well enough to select a gift that they would appreciate. 

''It’s not necessarily a sign they don’t care about you, but more than they want to pass the decision on to you.''

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Just like James, Hayley also wouldn't be too pleased to find a gift voucher underneath the tree on Christmas.

''No one (men, are you reading this carefully?) wants to receive a voucher as a present.

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''Even though your intentions might be all in the right place it can come across as hasty.''

However, if you have received a voucher this year, Hayley reminded to not ''judge it too harshly''.

''It can be hard to choose the right gift, and just because someone doesn't intuitively know what you'll love, that doesn't mean that they can't become a great partner for you.''

A bottle of perfume

Whether it's something sweet and floral or more musky, we all love spritzing a generous amount of perfume. But what about your favourite fragrance as a present?

Although James said that at least it means ''they are paying attention'', this is something a woman would've most likely purchased herself anyway.

''There are plenty of other presents you could get her that she’ll appreciate much more.''

A relaxing spa day

The relationship whizz Hayley said: ''Spa days are a great opportunity to spend quality time together doing something romantic.

''Just like the famous fictional single Bridget Jones, minibreaks are also usually interpreted as signalling a step forward in the seriousness of the relationship.''

But in James' eyes, spa days, as relaxing as they are, are also on the more generic side.

Instead, he recommended: ''If you are going to go down this route, extend it to a more memorable weekend and go together.''

A bath set

The one time of the year where bath sets are experiencing eye-watering sales is, of course, Christmas, and men seem to love this as a gift idea.

But as popular as they are, James described them as ''boring'', particularly when bagged from the drugstores on high street.

''That’s something you can save for an elderly grandmother.  

''Women tend to be very particular with their skin and hair products and they won’t want to deviate from this.''

Although Hayley agreed to an extent, she also pointed out that bath sets ''do encourage some self care''.

''Even if it wasn't the perfect gift for you, it's not a red flag if someone doesn't get you the "right" present.

''Just think of all the times you've scratched your head about what to get your dad this year? Exactly, good gift giving is an art form for some people, and a trial for others.''

Pandora charms and jewellery

Just like around Valentine's Day, the festive season sees queues of men lining outside their local Pandora store to bag charms and rings.

In James' opinion, this can be a great option, particularly when you know which charm or bracelet she's after.

''However, much like lingerie, cheap and tacky gifts will have the opposite effect.

''Buy something that she'll enjoy rather than something that's to your own taste.''

What makes a gift thoughtful?

Although the festive season's come to an end, it's worthwhile keeping in mind the experts' tips on romantic gifts you and your loved one will appreciate.

Hayley said: ''To help with this it's useful to keep a list on your smart phone throughout the year of things your partner mentions that they might want.

''If you have a clueless partner it's also okay to help them out by telling them what you want.''

''People often value personalised items, so if there's a way you can customise your gift to them it will come across as thoughtful.

''If you've gone for a more generic "main" gift (think: bath sets, perfume) is there a smaller gift you can give that shows thoughtfulness?

''Maybe their favourite chocolates, or a game they used to love playing as a kid, or a silly (but highly useful) object that they'll need?''

Sharing his thoughts, James added that the presentation of the present matters just as much.

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''Quality wrapping paper, ribbons, tissue paper and gift boxes are essential elements to make a statement.

''Personalising the gift with a thoughtful note or message can further emphasise the sentiment.''

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