I took a four-day holiday and gave my husband no notice – he needs to help out more, it was the only way to teach him

A MUM has revealed how she dropped everything and took a four day holiday, leaving her husband at home and without giving him any warning.

Taking to Reddit, the wife asked if she was an “a**hole” for doing so in the hope to try and teach her “lazy” husband a lesson.

In the post she explained that she and her husband had been together for eight years, had married 15 months ago and share a four-year-old son.

The woman revealed that she works 12 hour days for four days a week, while her husband finishes work at 1am, and will sleep the rest of the day, spending days off with herself and their son.

But recently, the woman has noticed her husband has been doing less around the house.

“I have noticed that as time goes on, he does less and less around the house,” she writes.

“Before this he would make dinner on his days off, take care of ALL of sons needs and do basic cleaning so that I could have a breather. 

“Now he doesn't make dinner at all, falls asleep on the couch by 7 so I have son duty 24/7 and hasn't lifted a finger to clean in weeks. 

“So on my 3 days off a week, I end up having to deep clean my entire house because I don't have time to do anything on my work days aside from the bare minimum.”

After asking him to help her our, the mum became frustrated when he did just 30 minutes of chores before helping a friend, so she hatched out a plan

She explained: “(I) asked my mom to take my son for 4 days and planned a vacation for myself with work. 

“I dropped my son off yesterday with my mom (I only did this because my husband obviously works) and took off to our cabin 58 miles away to relax.

“My husband started texting me last night asking where I was. I told him the cabin. He asked where our son was so I told him. 

I straight out told him I needed a break. I asked him for help. He disregarded it all

“He then started going off about how this is selfish of me and that if he had realised I wasn't merely stressed out that he would have helped out more. 

“Used the argument that he too is stressed out and tired. He claims my communication on the issue was terrible and that I could have been more open and laid it out. 

“Says that I'm an AH (a**hole) for taking a vacation without him because he ‘could have used it too’. 

“But the thing is, I straight out told him I needed a break. I asked him for help. He disregarded it all.”

And the majority of Reddit users sided with the wife, agreeing that she was not an “a**hole.”

One wrote: “Does husband not have eyes? Can he not see what needs to be cleaned, tidied or cooked? Does he not know his child's needs? 

“If he didn't before maybe his "four day vacation" without a child to care for or a wife to clean up after him opened his eyes (sic).”

Agreeing, another added: “He has a house to himself, with no wife nor child to worry about. How is he not also getting a vacation?”

“He's upset at facing the consequences of his own actions and he should be apologising to you,” wrote a third.

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